The Language Of Letting Go!

I have had a lot of blessings and things given to me to help me to let go. My sweet mother gave me this book about three months ago. The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. My Mom had read it years ago while she was going through some difficult trials and she thought it could help me. It really has! Some days I'd read something and think it was really good, but also thing "yeah right" I CAN'T do that. But with time I have been able to start healing and moving on. This book gives such true strength, encouragement, understanding, and guidance. I love that it has sincerely understood my emotions and stages of grieving and that ALL of those feelings are okay to feel at some point.

 It's okay to hurt:

"It's okay to feel hurt; it's okay to cry; it's okay to heal; it's okay to move on to the next feeling, WHEN IT'S TIME. Our willingness and capacity to feel hurt will eventually be matched by our willingness and capacity to feel joy." 

It's almost over......

"Each step of the way, we learned. We went through exactly the experiences we needed to, to become who we are today. Each step of the way, we progressed. Is our past a mistake? No. The only mistake we can make is mistaking that for the truth. There are no two moments in time alike. We are recovering. We are changing. Our life is changing. At times, things haven't worked out the way we wanted. We had lessons to learn. The future shall not be like the past. The truly difficult times are almost over. The confusion, the most challenging learning experiences, the difficult feelings are about to pass. Do NOT limit the future by the past!"

Gratitude:

"Sometimes in life, things happen too fast. We barely solve one problem when two new problems surface. Often when we're feeling overwhelmed, we can't see the lessons in these experiences. One simple concept can get us through the most stressful of times. It's called GRATITUDE. We learn to say, thank you, for these problems and feelings. Thank you for the way things are. I don't like this experience, but thank you anyway. FORCE gratitude until it becomes habitual. Gratitude helps us stop trying to control outcomes. It is the key that unlocks positive energy in out life. It is the alchemy that turns problems into blessings, and the unexpected into gifts." 

"God has planned little gifts along the way to brighten out day, and sometimes big, delightful surprises- perfectly timed, perfect for us."

"The good news of surrendering ourselves and our life to a Power greater than ourselves is that we come into harmony with a Great plan, one greater than we can imagine. We are promised Divine Guidance if we ask for it. What greater gift could we receive than knowing our thoughts, words, and actions are being directed."

The next one is for me to read on a bad day, when I am filled with doubt and uncertainty.......

 Days of Gray:

"Sometimes, the gray days scare us. Those are the days when the old feelings come rushing back. We may feel needy, scared, ashamed, unable to care for ourselves. When this happens, it's hard to trust ourselves, others, the goodness of life, and the good intentions of our Higher Power. Problems seem overwhelming. The past seems senseless; the future, bleak. We feel certain the things we want in life will never happen. People and things don't stop our pain or heal us. In recovery, we learn that this is OUR JOB, and we can do it by using our resources: ourselves, our Higher Power, our support systems. Often, after we've become peaceful, trusting, and accepting, what we want comes to us- with ease and naturalness. The sun begins to shine again. It's true that all change begins with us."

Strength:

We don't always have to be strong to be strong! Sometimes, our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Sometimes we need to fall apart to regroup and stay on track. We all have days when we cannot push any harder, cannot hold back self-doubt, cannot stop focusing on fear, CANNOT BE STRONG. Sometimes, we cry in front of people. We expose our tiredness, irritability, or anger. Those days are okay, They are just okay. We have permission to "fall apart." We do not have to be perpetual towers of strength. We are strong. We have proven that. Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves courage to feel scared, weak and vulnerable when we need to experience those feelings."